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Cancer’s weird consolations

This evening, I got my first haircut since February. My hair is fine and grows slowly, so I don’t get it cut that often. The last time I went to the same salon, I took off several inches in preparation for my surgery. My doctor told me that I wouldn’t be able to shower or get my incision wet for a few weeks afterwards, so I wanted something simple and low-maintenance. Tonight, I stared at the person looking back at me in the large mirror, strangely skeptical that it was the same one who sat in the same chair seven months ago. It’s funny how we can meet ourselves again and again in life. After certain things, in anticipation of others… The face in the mirror looked a little different, but what I felt was uncannily the same: fear.

It rises in me at regular intervals now, then recedes, like a tide. My first CT scan last Friday went surprisingly well until it didn’t. The nurse who stuck me for the contrast dye IV was incredibly kind and reassuring. She found my vein on the first try and, because it was only a scan of my head and neck, I didn’t have to drink that awful barium sulfate solution. My time in the machine only lasted about seven minutes, and my mantra had been well-rehearsed. Two hours later, my husband and I were back in the surgical oncologist’s office to go over the results. The nurse practitioner who met with us said that she’d looked over the images and didn’t see anything concerning. “We’re still waiting for the radiologist’s final report,” she explained, “but I think you should be good to come back in six months for your next scan.”

I felt profoundly relieved and dove into the pleasures of a three day weekend headfirst. Then, on Tuesday afternoon, I received the official report from the radiologist via my patient portal. Apparently, there was something concerning. An irregular lymph node in my neck that will need to be more closely monitored. I have to go back for yet another CT scan in three months instead of six.

This news settled hard, to the extent that it settled at all. I asked my doctor for more information; she responded that it is possible I just have an oddly shaped lymph node and, if there are no changes to it in three months, we can assume things are fine. But I’m still reeling from the last time I thought things were fine, and then they weren’t. I suppose this is the new normal, but damn, do I miss the old one.

As I’ve tried to wrap my head around this latest uncertainty–as I’ve moved through a range of emotions from shock to fear to rage to even, at times, forgetting–the consolation that has come to me is an odd one (unless, that is, you have cancer, or something like it). When I began worrying how I would get through the next three months of life and work without letting my pending scan–much less, what might be happening inside my body–weigh so heavily upon me that I might not be able to function, or when I felt sheer anger that I couldn’t have a measly six months out from under cancer’s shadow, I suddenly wondered why I was assuming I had those three months until my next scan at all. To most, this would seem an incredibly morbid thought, but, to me, it was a comfort. I don’t really know how to explain it, but when I first received my diagnosis (and little other information), and feared I might be dying as I drove home from having my blood drawn that day, it occurred to me that I could also die in a car accident at any time. And this offered the strangest sense of relief. I guess simply realizing that I still didn’t know, that all was as uncertain as it had ever been, created some space for hope. Which, though small, is where I’m trying to live for the better part of each day.

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The postmodern poetry of pathology reports

For a time now, I’ve been able to put cancer behind me. I’m doing–and thinking about–other things. But this Friday, I have my first post-treatment CT scan, and it’s looming large on the horizon. I keep rehearsing the afternoon’s appointment in my head by recalling how things went down the first time. Drinking that awful barium sulfate solution, alone, in a freezing cold room; the brisk manner of nurses and lab techs; lying on yet another narrow table; feeling the contrast dye saturate my veins; repeating the mantra I said to myself, before, as the machine pivoted around me: My body is a dark city, my body is a dark city. Like London during the blackouts of WWII, I don’t want it to light up. (Obviously, my understanding of how these things work is vague, but I believe the radiologists are looking for some kind of “activity”–for cancer cells to react to the chemicals coursing through my body by luminescing.)

For some reason, my mind also keeps going back to my initial pathology report. I don’t know why doctors give these to patients; mine consisted of a dense paragraph of medical jargon followed by this stand-alone sentence, in all caps:

THE LESION IS MALIGNANT.

Reading it felt like the closest I might ever come to visiting an oracle. But what seemed, at the time, like a fixed decree–an intractable fate–has since revealed itself to be a bit more pliant. Much can still be done in the wake of such things; choices can still be made. Which may be why I’ve been questioning some of my own lately. Small ones, like becoming irritated in traffic, or with the endless stream of students filing into my classroom to borrow my stapler this morning. Do I, alone, have the earth’s last functioning stapler, I wondered. And then I took a deep breath, a proverbial step back. I do a lot of that now. Trying to notice how I’m responding to certain things and why. Trying to hold onto the perspective that the past nine months has brought, though it was dearly purchased (does perspective ever come cheaply?). Is this worth the worry or frustration it’s causing me? Can I let it go? We all have so many heavy things to carry. Friday’s appointment is one of mine.

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Or maybe…

I’ll lean right the fuck into it. The future, that is. I’ve had a profoundly reassuring week, and I figure I should share the good news here, just as I have the bad. On Wednesday, I saw my surgical oncologist for the first time since he removed the stitches from my neck in February (and well before I began radiation). He said I looked great–that everything was healing wonderfully. Personally, I think anyone who’s not barfing all over themselves–which I was the last time we met–would get as favorable a review. But this was a relief to hear, nonetheless. I then asked him if my prognosis was good, and he told me I was in the best possible position I could be in with respect to that: the remaining tumor he’d removed from my tongue was small, my lymph nodes had been clear of cancer, and they staged it at I. “You can relax and enjoy your summer now,” he said. “The hard part is behind you.”

Hearing this was like a benediction. They’ll still continue to monitor me via CT scans of my head and neck for the next five years, of course, but there’s good reason to believe I just might be alright. The doctor then asked if I wanted a referral to a plastic surgeon to see if they might be able to laser off the long scar on the side of my neck. “I know it can make people self-conscious,” he explained. I declined. I’m strangely proud of it. As I read the other night in the knock-your-socks-off memoir, All the Lives We Ever Lived: Seeking Solace in Virginia Woolf by Katharine Smyth: “We are each of us circumscribed within a body, the shape of which, the scars on which, the holes within which, tell our tale if you care to read it.” I actually now have two scars on my neck, the one from my recent lymph node excision and another, fainter one, across the base of my throat from a partial thyroidectomy I had at age twenty-one. My daughter likes to trace her finger over them when she’s lying in my lap. It looks like I survived the guillotine or something. Twice.

Then today, I saw my speech therapist, who also gave me a good report. She observed me chew and swallow a few sample foods they keep on hand (the graham cracker was a challenge), and said she was impressed with my progress. She encouraged me to continue doing my weird tongue exercises, as latent complications from the radiation can occur as long as five or ten years down the road. So I figure I’ll try to do them when I’m driving and give anyone who happens to pull up next to me a good laugh.

When I got in the car to head home after this appointment, I cried. The weather outside was so fittingly, beautifully bright it seemed staged. I still feel the clench of fear in my gut when I think of everything I’ve been through (and will continue to go through in the coming months and years), but I’d like to give myself permission, as my doctor did, to feel joy a little more fully, too. I’ve always been frugal with this emotion, bearing (stupidly, constantly) in mind a line from Faulkner’s Absalom, Absalom! claiming that the minute you let down your guard is “the instant which Fate always picks out to blackjack you.” But what else is there to do, really? The house always wins, and yet you have to play. That’s the rub.

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Turning the corner

Well folks, I’m using a fork again. And not just on my hair. Over the past few days I’ve had some solid foods. They’ve had to be moist ( a god-awful word, I know) because my mouth is still very dry and my saliva is pasty (perhaps an even worse word). I can only manage a few bites, not an entire meal, but this is progress given where I was a week ago. I’ve found some success with watermelon, over easy eggs, well dressed salad (romaine lettuce only), tzatziki yogurt, peaches… In short, anything with a high water content that sort of salivates for you (man, do I feel sorry for my readers who are not, themselves, recovering from oral radiation. These past few posts must be a total bore. If I happen to have any readers who are recovering from oral radiation, take heart. Things do improve, albeit gradually). I’d say food tastes about 70% the way it used to. Chewing and swallowing remain slow and effortful, so eating still isn’t really a source of pleasure. But I’m beginning to believe it might be again someday…

It’s funny, I have a newfound wariness of that word (i.e., someday). Of the future in general, really. I don’t know whether I can lean into it fully–whether it will support me. So much of what I used to to take for granted has become a big IF… If the treatment worked… If my next scans are clear… It’s hard to inhabit the conditional and contingent, despite the fact that this is where we always already are. I’m treading lightly, I guess you could say, my heart a kind of rookery where the birds are liable to startle and take flight at any minute. A tall drink is definitely in order.